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English 1301 students:
For your last blog of the semester, please submit a comment of at least two well-developed paragraphs on the following topic before Monday, December 10th, at midnight:
What is one of the pet peeves in your life that makes you feel the same way that Stanley Fish feels about fancy coffee shops, as he explains in “Getting Coffee is Hard to Do” (pp. 286-89 in our textbook). Here is a link to the article as it appears in The New York Times
As you think about your pet peeve, you might want to consider this critique of Fish's editorial by Ron Rosenbaum: "The World Op-Ed Ever Written?"
And, just for fun, you might want to listen to the pop song to which the title of Mr. Fish's editorial alludes. Here's are links to two versions of the song, written and performed by Neil Sedaka, on YouTube: fast version of "Breaking Up is Hard to Do" and slow version of "Breaking Up Is Hard to Do" Personally, I like the slow version better, but the older, faster version is especially old-fashioned, so it seems especially relevant to the old-fashioned attitudes about coffee in Fish's editorial.
After you submit your comment, please reply in one well-developed paragraph to at least one of the other students' comments.
Happy Holidays,
Dr. K
My pet peeve I believe is highly relatable is how people are hired with no good redeeming qualities but still get the job. The people who cant do their job right.bothers - those little inconveniences that get under our skin and we can't disregard, regardless of how hard we attempt. In spite of the fact that everybody has their very own one of a kind annoyances, there are various things which the vast majority can't stand. It is astonishing that it is so engaging to think about every one of the propensities and exercises that make us frantic. Take one moment to think about your annoyances. Annoyances, at that point, are irritations that never neglect to place you in that temperament of disdain. They additionally will in general involve assessment, and are connected to your identity.
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree with you on this topic people who are hired to do a job should be well suited and fit for the job why hire someone who is inept and will only cause problems for the customers and other staff. I do not understand why people even apply for the job knowing they have no experience and still not putting in any effort to learn they just bumble along causing problems because they refuse to improve or learn.
DeleteMy pet peeve is also related to the food industry. I can't stand going to a nice restaurant and have a bad waiter. Let me define a nice restaurant and a bad waiter in my opinion. A nice restaurant is a restaurant where the food is priced higher than a typical casual restaurant such as chili's. Maybe you need to dress nice or make reservations to eat at the restaurant. places like this should not have bad waiters.
ReplyDeleteA bad waiter is a waiter who take a long time to take you]r drink order and just rarely checks up on your table. Bad waiters leave your glass empty and rarely give refills. They're unpolite and act like they don't care about your table. I don't know how bad waiters get jobs at nice restaurant. Maybe it's just mainly because they have experience. I know a bunch of managers hire waiters based off experience. I think there should be more to it than that. The waiter needs to have a welcoming and happy attitude on the job and the managers need to make sure they have that.
I agree with your pet peeve of the food industry. Going out to eat is supposed to be a convenience that you are paying for so bad service is annoying and sometimes it seems as if it would be faster and definitely cheaper to just cook at home.
DeleteI totally agree, I hate going to restaurants with bad service. I have had few experiences in the past where the waiter or waitress took forever to take our order. It took them so much time just for them to bring us our food and we barely got refills for our drink. Those waiters or waitresses probably came to our table maybe twice. Also some of them have an attitude that shows they do not want to be there and it is honestly not convenient for the restaurant or the customers.
DeleteI agree with you that nice restaurants should get the best employees that they can possibly get. A bad employee can easily ruin someones dining experience. Having good employees would make the experience of dining out a lot better.
DeleteI agree that having bad service is a horrible experience. Especially if your short on time. It ruins the dinning experience and also frustrates you.
DeleteI totally agree with your pet peeve of the bad waiter. Customers deserve a good service because they pay for it. I agree that how important the service which they got by the waiter is. Waiter’s attitude determines the customer’s feeling and the restaurant’s image. No matter how tasty foods the restaurant has, they had a bad service, then the restaurants never be a good restaurant. I think having good employees and giving customers good services are very important.
DeleteI also agree with you. Having to pay for such bad service could turn out to be a waste of money to me. It ruins the great experience that you could've had without the negativity. This is exactly why I eat out less and cook for myself more.
DeleteThe feelings that Fish expresses towards getting coffee are similar to the feelings that I have towards Black Friday shopping. The way that the sheer thought of getting coffee irritates Fish and makes him think of all the annoying little details that go along with what should be simply getting coffee is the way I feel when I think about the act of Black Friday shopping. Don’t get me wrong I love the concept of Black Friday, I am all about saving money however, I think that the day of “Black Friday” is a little overwhelming. For one, I think that the day that Black Friday falls on is a little ironic. The day just before Black Friday is supposed to be a day of thanks and being thankful for what you already have, generally not a lot of materialistic things. But then the very next day, sometimes even the day of people go out to literally fight over toys, shoes, clothes, etc. So, what is the point of being thankful if in the back of your mind you are what kind of stuff you are about to go buy. Aside from the day falling in a not so great place the atmosphere surrounding Black Friday gives me those irritated feelings. There are so many people in one place looking for the same things. Most being so determined to get those things that they will literally fight for them. It just doesn’t make sense to me, especially considering that Cyber Monday is right around the corner. Taking the Cyber Monday route is a lot safer and probably more effective as well. The crowds are overwhelming, and the lines are just ridiculous especially since you cannot assure that you are going to get what you are going in for. Today Black Friday is a little better than it used to be, some stores run their sales starting before Black Friday and then let them run sales a few days after as well. This probably cuts down on the crowds and fights on the actual day however, I still am not a fan and if I ever go out on the actual day of Black Friday I will greatly surprise myself.
ReplyDeleteOne of the pet peeves in my life that makes me feel the same way that Stanley Fish feels about fancy coffee is when I’m sitting beside a person that is eating with their mouth open and smaking whatever their eating. First of all, I for sure do not want to see what a person is chewing on. Secondly, I literally can’t stand the sound of someone smacking on their food, it drives me crazy. Not only is it hard to ignore the noise, but it is extremely difficult to focus on what you're doing. Also, it shows that they don't know what manners are. It is so tough to not look at them with a disgust face. A way I have avoided in being in that situation, I simply put on my earphones and listen to music with the volume all the way up. It only works when I'm in places such as the ASU library, but not restaurants because that will just make me look weird. I listed the library because of course I found myself sitting beside someone who was smacking on a subway sandwich.
ReplyDeleteAnother pet peeve of mine is someone talking through the movie. It drives me insane when I'm trying to watch a movie and someone is talking. I hate sitting in a movie theater close to someone who is constantly talking and won’t be quite. To make it worse is a group of people talking when I'm trying to watch a movie that I spent my money on. Mostly everybody, including myself, go to movie theaters to enjoy the movie and have a good time, but the people that don’t know how to be quite are the ones that make it hard for that to happen. I'm totally ok with people laughing because I find myself doing that. However, I find it so irritating when you have to sit there for about two hours and listen to a person that insists in talking while the movie is on. I find it rude and disturbing.
I also really had when people smack while they are eating. It is incredibly annoying and shows that one person does not have the slightest clue what manners are. When someone chews with their mouth open it is very gross. I don't want to see the food that person is eating. I also hate when people talk during a movie. that is extremely rude. they can wait till after the movie to talk. I agree with these pet peeves.
DeleteOne of my pet peeves are when people don’t put the toilet seat down after they get done using it. Your home toilet is not a public toilet that’s why it comes with a seat cover some people have nasty toilets and then have the audacity to leave the seat up. If I came over to your house and I just need to go to the restroom and to get some tissue and I see rust and poop streaks in the bottom of the toilet I’m going to think that you live like that and you just cleaned the house just because you knew you were going to have company over.
ReplyDeleteAnother pet peeve is when a woman wears open toed shoes without having her toes painted. Don’t get me wrong they don’t have to be painted all the time but if you wanted to have your toes painted and you keep the same old nail polish on and one toe nail has half paint and the other is chipping is not it CHIEF. If you don’t want to wear polish just take all of them off or wear clean polish what the point in getting all cute and don’t do your toes to complete your outfit. That is like a man getting all dressed up and not having a clean haircut or freshly shaven it would just throw the entire outfit off.
One of my pet peeves that is like what Fish expresses in "Getting Coffee is Hard to Do" is when people eat loudly in a movie theater. No one wants to hear you eat when people paid good money to see a movie. I don't want my money wasted on going to a movie because I have to sit next to an idiot who can't eat his popcorn without his mouth being open. It just shows how crappy and childish of a person you are. It is even more embarrassing when that individual is older. Did your parents even teach you proper etiquette on how to eat in public? Whenever I have to sit next to one of these individuals, I know that I wasted money on going to the movie because the idiot next to me is going to be grabbing all of my attention. When I go to the movies, I try to avoid these people.
ReplyDeleteAnother pet peeve of mine are driving with truck drivers. Why do they have to drive so much slower than everyone else? It makes it so everyone gets to their designated place later. What makes it even worse is when you are forced to be behind them in areas such as in single lanes. That is really frustrating because it seems like they drive that slow just so they can spite everyone. Another is whenever two of them are clogging up both lanes. You are forced to wait until one of the idiots gets in front of the other. This often will result in traffic due to their stupidity.
I couldn't have agreed with you anymore. I hate when people smack super loud in theaters. Theaters should be quiet and a place where you can enjoy yourself, the movie and maybe your company if you have any. I often think that some people who do these childish things are raised in a barn. Some people just need better manners.
DeleteOne of my pet peeves that is like how fish feels in getting coffee is when someone either eating or chewing something insanely loud and smacking it. This drives me crazy, especially with my friends when we go eat somewhere. Some of my friends do it on purpose to just get on my nerves to be annoying. Also my little brother always smacks he's food super loud while were eating dinner at the dinner table. My parents have told him to " chew with your mouth closed " countless times and he still wont. It really annoys me.
ReplyDeleteI definitely agree with this. Loud chewing is so annoying and can be very bothersome when you are trying to enjoy a meal. I dont want to hear someone else's mouth smacking whenever im trying to enjoy my own meal. My sister used to do this all the time and I found it extremely bothersome.
DeleteOne of the pet peeves I can relate to is that you have to learn new words so you can order coffee. I really enjoy a cup of coffee as the next guy but there is a reason a manly drink coffee at home. When ever I go to a coffee shop it is a big hassle for me. I hate that I have to learn a whole new language to get a cup of coffee. I have to think of the right words that I need to say before a get to the register. By the time I get to the register I got my order in my head and then I say that I want a "grande" when I really meant to say "venti". This happens to me almost all the time when i order a coffee. What happened to small, medium, and large drink sizes.
ReplyDeleteThere are also the other people who go to the coffee shop too. I hate when I am waiting in line a have to wait on one person taking their order. when ever this happens it is always a person that goes to the coffee shop every day. When ever this person orders it sounds like they are making a potion. I say this because the person is saying weird words that sounds like ingredients that I never heard of. In my head I'm think "we get it you know the coffee language, just hurry up and move out of the way!" This makes me very angry every time this happens to me. That is one of the pet peeves I can relate to.
One of my petpeeves that makes me feel the same way as " Getting Coffe is Hard to do" is when people think they are entitled to my time or anyones time in general. No person owes a single other person their time so when people get upset over that it really bothers me.
ReplyDeleteAnother pet peeve of mine is when people ask me if im not cold when its a cold temperature outside and im lightly dressed. I dressed myself nd im out here of course im not cold or bothered. Obiously. Stupid questions with obivous answeres make me mad.
I agree a hundred percentage with you when you say your pet peeve is when people feel entitled to your time. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who believe you have to listen to them because they believe they are "higher up" or have some kind of importance but you are right to say that no one owes another persons time and the other person does not have the right to be upset about it .
DeleteOne of the pet peeves in my life that makes me feel the same way that Stanley Fish feels about fancy coffee in his essay “Getting Coffee is Hard to do” is when people make noise in a movie theater. There are some people who keep talking and make noise when I’m trying to watch a movie. It is so annoying because I cannot enjoy a movie that I spent my money on. Some people seem that they do not know their noise make other people irritated. People should know that theater is not their private space and people pay for enjoying the movie and having a good time. It is a basic etiquette which makes a theater better place.
ReplyDeleteAnother pet peeve of mine is when workers do not do their jobs well. I understand that sometimes people are swamped with their heavy workload. However, customers pay for the services and it is wrong if customers did not get the proper services because customers deserve to get the right services. The heavy workload is the worker’s business, not the customer’s business. If there were a lot of works, a company should employ more workers. They should not dump their work stress on customers.
One pet peeve that I have is when people treat workers poorly. For example, if you are rude to a waiter, cashier, or customer service person for something that is out of their control, I find that to be extremely unnecessary. Although sometimes it can be an inconvenience for you, think about how hard the other person is trying to work to get you what you want. Most of the time it isn’t their faults, and we shouldn’t be so quick to yell at the first person trying their best to help us out. I used to work in retail and people would yell at me for things that were out of my control. I make sure that whenever I see it happening, I apologize for that person’s behavior, because I believe no worker should have to deal with that if they are simply trying to do their best to help a customer. Although occasionally there can be bad service, I believe that if you see how hard a person is working that is all you can ask for. That is why no matter what, I will always treat waiters or customer services associates with respect.
ReplyDeleteAs a previous cashier, I can relate to the struggles that can come about in the work place. I also cannot stand when workers are treated poorly by a customer, especially when it is out of that worker's hands. I feel the need to approach the worker and encourage him, as well as apologize for the person, after seeing an encounter like the one we both spoke about in our blogs. I agree that most of the time when a customer is complaining about something and harping on a worker, it is often not that workers fault and usually that worker does not have the solution. There are instances where I have received bad service at some establishments, but I remember back to when I was working in the food business and quickly decide that it wasn't intentional and if anyone is to blame, it's not the cashier or the waiter. With my experience as a worker in this type of industry, I can agree that I will always treat any worker, no matter their position, respectfully.
DeleteIn my life there seems that I have many pet peeves but the main one that I can never seem to overlook is when a person believes they are more important than the next. This pet peeve made me feel quite similarly to how Stanley Fish felt in “Getting Coffee is Hard to Do”. I just can not seem to wrap my head around the idea of how someone can say that their problems or their lives are more important than someone else’s. That is the best way to get my blood boiling, because not everyone’s problems are the same, what one would think is a small problem, could be a huge downfall for the next. We do not have the right to say that our problems are worse than someone else's, especially when we do not know their lives and what they go through on a day to day in their lives. Everyone should be treated with dignity and respect equally among everyone. Always be respectful of others and never allow the negativity to overpower us to bring someone else down.
ReplyDeleteMost people would tell you that there are many things that get on my nerves but never to the point of actually upsetting me. Although, this one has always made me feel overwhelmed with anger. I’ve seen my parents been mistreated or turned away because companies or businesses believed the next person’s complaint or problem was more important. I honestly believe that is where the pet peeve was created because I was so young having to witness this kind of behavior from grown adults. Ever since then, whenever I see this happening in public I always have to say something because when it happened I was not able to speak up.
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ReplyDeleteOne major pet peeve that I have, relating to how Stanley Fish feels in the article, is customers treating workers poorly or impolitely. This is a substantial pet peeve for me because I worked at a Dairy Queen. During my time of work there, I got to experience first hand from the worker’s perspective. There have been multiple times where customers have come in and acted out because they felt they were wronged. In many cases as a cashier, the apparent problem was completely out of my control. Often times the reasons were that we ran out of a certain item that day that the customer planned on ordering. Other scenarios include complaints about small things such as the chicken being too crispy or sundaes not being large enough for the customer. As a cashier all of these things are out of my control and it takes all I have within me to keep my mouth closed as the customer rambles on with complaints.
ReplyDeleteAs a result of working the cashier position at a restaurant, I have learned to be more patient when going out to eat. I don’t complain to the waiter about how long our order is taking to be made. I don’t complain about the quality of the food or about the store’s inventory because I know it is out of the control of the waiter or cashier. Complaining about these small inconveniences impolitely does nothing but make the situation more toxic and out of control. It causes a scene and makes everyone involved look ridiculous. I will always treat the workers who work in restaurants, whether it be five star or fast food, with respect due to knowing how hard they work and having a better idea of what their job actually consists of.
I completely agree with you. I worked as a cook at Pei Wei and it is super annoying and disrespectful when customers treat you like garbage. They son't understand what goes on behind the scenes in a food establishment and if something ran out or isn't on the menu anymore, they take your anger out on you. Even if you can't control anything about the situation, you end up becoming a verbal human punching bag for all their anger.
DeleteMy pet peeve is in relation from Stanley Fish's "Getting Coffee is hard to do". I absolutely hate waiting in line and most over priced food/drinks at fast food restaurants. The point of "fast" food to me is to put in my order and arrived to me in less than five minutes. Obviously there would always be about ten more people that are ahead of me to order lunch or dinner. For a personal fact, I get really uncomfortable in long wait lines inside a store or restaurant. There has to be least one person in line that wants ice cream and I think they are the ones who hold up the line. The person who puts in the food orders usually turns around and makes the ice cream right away, however doing the work slowly as more customers arrive. In my opinion, there are a few fast food chains usually have expensive specialty drinks that are usually over priced because of the bothering labor to make the drinks. Not only the wait is long and the specialty drinks are overpriced, however the employers at a very sophisicated restaurant could be really rude. I think that if there is anything going on outside of work such as drama from high school or not a goodnight sleep, should not be expressed at work. That should be left outside the door before you go into work so that you don't have to be annoyed so easily by picky customers. Rude employers should really be evaluated by the manager if there is a complaint. All of my pet peeves are the reason why I can not stand fast food restaurants nor the mean employers.
ReplyDeleteOne of the biggest pet peeves in my life, are people who don’t understand the simple concept of driving a car and the rules of the road. When two people approach a stop sign at a 4 way stop whoever gets there first has the right of way. Just because you feel like you deserve to go doesn’t mean it’s your turn. You have to sit and wait for the other person who got there first to go. Or, if you both got there at the same time then who ever is to the right, let them go. Don’t try and burn rubber and get out of there as quick as you can and risk causing an accident. Just let the person who is to the right go first, and you’ll have nothing to worry about.
ReplyDeleteAnother huge pet peeve of mine is when people think that it’s fine to not use a blinker because other people can read your mind. News flash, we can’t. It really doesn’t require any effort at all. All you have to do is just flip the signal in the direction you want to go before you decide to go there. Don’t put it on 2 seconds after you already start to change lanes, put it on in advance so that others know that you want to move over. Don’t force your way into an occupied lane and cut someone off. It’s just plain rude and extremely dangerous. Just a recap please use your turn signal and everything will be just fine.
One pet peeve that I have that makes me feel like Fish is when a person never speaks their mind. I cannot stand when people always dance around a subject or never really give their own thoughts about something it just makes me angry that they can't say whats on their mind there is nothing wrong with having an opinion. Most of my anger comes from when people are lets say upset with you and you have no idea why, yes I know this situation is common and most of the time if you think hard enough you can figure out what you did but what if you didn't do anything? These situations are what make me angry when they are upset about something you didn't even do and just keep avoiding it never wanting to talk about what happened to even confirm if its true or not.
ReplyDeleteWhile that makes me angry people who can't form their own opinions also get on my nerves. I do not understand how people can just go with what someone says just because most people around them also believe it. All I am saying is its OK to have your OWN opinion and believe what you want no one is going to judge you for thinking differently then the guy to your right I promise. These are kind of two of my biggest pet peeves but I really count them as one because they are similar in my eyes.
I absolutely agree when people dance around a subject it annoys me so much. I have friends that would rather lie than be honest about how they really feel and it's horrible. I hate when people don't just say how they feel instead of speaking their mind. As it happens to me all the time your idea behind this is relevant and honest.
DeleteOne of the pet peeves in my life that makes me feel the same way that Stanley Fish feels about fancy coffee is people who eat with their mouth open and smack while they are chewing gum. First of all when your young you should learn that smacking is impolite and disgusting. Secondly, I literally can’t stand the sound and I am sure no one else wants to either. I find it really hard not to hear the noise, not only that I have a hard time concentrating on what I am supposed to be doing. It is so tough not to turn around and ask them to spit their gum out. I learned to just walk away and remove myself from the situation going on. This method has worked, because I am usually in a public area. My family members stopped doing it after I kept getting up and walking away. This may not be the most efficient method, but it definitely keeps the arguments to very few.
ReplyDeleteAnother pet peeve of mine is someone talking while someone else is drives me insane, especially when I’m trying to learn or take notes. I hate sitting in a class or church where someone is constantly talking and won’t be quite. What bugs me more is a group of people talking and carrying on a conversation about random things. When I go to church or class, I go to learn and have a good time, but the people that don’t know how to be quite make it really hard for that to happen. I'm okay if they are talking, but only if it is at the appropriate time. However, it is so irritating when you have to sit there and listen to a person that insists in talking while someone else is talking. I find myself getting distracted by the things they are talking about. Irritation can also distract me from what I am supposed to be learning or writing down. I have learned to ask them politely to be quiet and if that doesn’t work, then I get up and move. This method is actually very efficient usually asking politely works, but occasionally I have to move.
I completely understand your annoyance with people who smack their food or gum. Not only is it loud and distracting, but highly disgusting. I’m not sure who raised people who do this, but they missed a critical issue during the process. The fact that there are adults who do this is insane, how have they not learned that it is an awful thing to do in the presence of others? Also, why do they feel the need at all to keep their mouth open to make sounds? It’s crazy how downplayed this is because it is simply a common courtesy not to aggravate others around you. You would think more people would attempt to rectify this wrong, but I suppose not.
DeleteOne of my biggest pet peeves is when people fake like they know something to seem more intelligent. The valedictorian at my school was always pretending that he knew things, even if it was untrue. I would often try to call him out of it, but he always denied it. I didn’t understand why he felt a need to know absolutely everything, but it was supremely annoying. I would even ask him question about things that I knew to be false and he would respond like he knew what I was talking about. When I would tell him that I had tricked him, he would play it off as it he knew that, every single time. I suppose nothing annoys me more than liars, especially when there is no reason to lie.
ReplyDeleteAnother thing that grinds my gears is when people snub you for enjoying something that they don’t. I love reading, and too often have I received looks or comments based on what I was reading. One of my favorite book series is “The Ranger’s Apprentice” and I was once approached in high school by someone I didn’t know well who asked me, “really? You’re reading that garbage?” I doubt that this person even knew what this series was, but just considered it a “nerd” book. In truth that series is beautifully written, with many fun allusions to history, which makes it a very enjoyable read. The fact that someone would judge someone else on such a minute detail just really aggravates me.
I have many pet peeves, but one of my biggest pet peeves that makes me feel the same way that Stanley Fish feels about fancy coffee shops is when working at fast food customers always give the employees an intimidating look. I used to work for a fast food chain restaurant, Jack-In-the-Box.Every time I had a customer pull up to the window while they wait for their food they would either look at me with a distasteful or impatient expression on there face. This really upsets me, because my team and I work as quickly and orderly as we can to serve you your food hot and fresh, but some people seem to not have any sympathy towards others. I don't understand while they have to bring their negativity to our job site when its already not amusing as it is to work.
ReplyDeleteNot to mention bad drivers! Every where you go you'll encounter some good drivers and some bad drivers occasionally. But these bad drivers must go. Here at San Angelo, I must say that people drive differently than my hometown. For example whenever you want to switch to get into another lane. Some drivers will speed up almost as if they don't want you to cross over! This really drives me crazy because one way or the other you will still get to your destination and when it comes down to the nitty gritty its pointless trying to cut people off.
One of my biggest pet peeves is the lack of attention people give when they try to complete a task. For Example I work in fast food, specifically Raising Cane’s. Which makes my pet peeve bother me even more. The reason why is because, we only have five different combos on our menu board which is the size of Texas. Here is where my pet peeve comes into play. When someone pulls through the drive thru to order some food, the easy and proper way of saying the order is, “Box combo with a sweet tea”. But in reality what happens majority of the time is instead of reading the board and noticing the name of the combo they want they’ll say, “Can I have the four finger meal with the fries, sauce, coleslaw, and toast.” This just seems ridiculous, unnecessary, and uninformed.
ReplyDeleteAnother pet peeve of mine is people who don’t indicate their lane switches or turns. Let’s say you are driving down the road behind a car and all of the sudden they start pressing on their brakes to slow down to turn, but they don’t use their turn signal. When this happens to me, before I realize that they are turning I assume there has been some kind of accident in front of them which in turn makes me become alert. When they start executing their turn I find a sense of relief knowing there isn’t an accident, but at the same time I am flustered, because if they had used their turn signal all of this thought processing would’ve been prevented. My parents have a hard time of doing this, and they know it's wrong but they still do it. That's why I either drive myself or I drive for them.
The feeling that Stanley fish express towards getting coffee is the same feeling toward people who don’t plan. The main reason I feel this way is because I am not the spur of the moment kind of guy. I like to plan out all my events and get all my ducks in a row. So when the time comes I can do the things I planned with no worries and nothing coming to screw me over. The thing about that too is my ex girlfriend was the same way. For example whenever the movie Black Panther came out she came up to me out of nowhere and asked if I wanted to go see it with her that night. I sadly had to tell her no because me and a group of my friends bought tickets 2 weeks ago to go see it opening night. That’s just who I am though. If there is an event that I want to go to or something I want to participate in I’m going to make sure that my schedule is clear to where I can go do it.
ReplyDeleteThe thing that really made this my pet peeve is the time when my uncle invited me to a concert one night and I didn’t have anything to do that day so of course I said yes. So I go to his house and and waiting for the concert and he comes and tells me that we have to go to a different one because the tickets or sold out. I was mad not at my uncle and not at the fact that th tickets were sold out. Mainly at the fact that he didn’t take the time to prepare and buy the tickets earlier. So we ended up going to a whole different concert of someone that I didn’t even know. Which really sucks because while everyone was enjoying their time there and singing along to his music, I had to just sit back and listen. All i could think about during the concert was only if my uncle had checked on the tickets a few weeks ago.
A pet peeve of mine that makes me feel the same way that Fish does is a grumpy/rushed service at a food restaurant. Nothing bothers me more than when a server is rude during your whole meal after being nothing but polite to them. After all isn't the dining experience about getting out and having a great conversation. If your service is rushed and and you don’t walk away happy with your service then experience just isn’t worth it. Also, when you’re eating and the server continuously rushes your eating process it just absolutely sucks.
ReplyDeleteAs Stanley Fish states in the article, “but no amount of politeness and care is enough.” Which is exactly what it feels like going to certain restaurants. You feel rushed and your appetite goes away to be honest. Being bombarded by a rude server ruins the whole experience. But sometimes you do get a good server and have a good time. This experience at a coffee shop and other food chains suck and makes the whole paradox horrible.
Although I don't completely agree with Stanley Fish i do understand where he is coming from. From what i could understand, Fish had an issue with something he couldn't necessarily control. Times have changed and these days, for those who have only been alive for a decade or two are used to this life that Fish seems to be so irritated by. But since i've lived and grown up in this modern age i see no problem with it. I do, though, have a pet peeve about something that is out of my control and is totally dependent on someone else's actions.
ReplyDeleteNow i'm not sure if my pet peeve is irrational but i just get so irritated when a person has first texted me and then i text back within a minute but i get no reply in response afterwards. I am fully aware that the person could have gotten busy all of a sudden but i can't help but feel annoyed. This only annoys me though when someone else has texted me first in any other situation i'm fine with. I try my best to reply to messages within a good amount of time so i expect the same from my peers but it doesn't always happen. As far as pet peeves go id say that is the one i've noticed most through out my life which makes sense because these days almost all communication is done via electronic so there's no way to get away from that pet peeve.
I find that your pet peeve is something that is rooted in this decade and is common for some. While fish on the other hand, has pet peeves that set in his time. Meeting that fish has new and different kinds of peeves due to him growing old. The coffee shop for example is something that subject to change. While Fish is more suborn to change and start to grow his pet peeve. As you look in the story he compares the old to the new coffee shop when trying state his pet peeve.
DeleteThe biggest pet peeve that I have is something that has grown with my age. That pet peeve is people with bad manners. I understand that some people don’t show their best manners if they don’t know the person. At least some show common cerdes when meeting new people out in the world. Examples of this would be, if you bump into someone then say sorry or excuse me, that would be fine with me. That being said, as I entered college some people seem to forget to show manners at all. When I walked to the CAF, I saw some people bumping into each other and just walked on like nothing happen. Even though it did not happen to me it still annoys me.
ReplyDeleteAnother example of something setting off my pet peeve is someone that does not apologizes for their mistakes. I rarely see this, but it still annoys me to this day. I try to understand why people does this, but I fail at it. An example of this is people that “accidently” miss their homework when it was due. This action bugs me the most because if someone does it on purpose then the whole class falls with them. What is worse that they don’t admit it, they rather make an excuse for it. This happen rarely at college, but somehow it still happens. In the end, these example only show that I’m growing in age and still hold strong with my manners.
Generally, I agree with you regarding bad manners. I would like to point out, however, that a lot of it has to do with how someone is raised. Thus, any aggravation caused by someone's apparent lack of manners really boils down to a difference in how they were brought up versus how you were. I suppose it's the same regarding whether or not it bothers you to begin with. At the end of the day, all you can really do is focus on being the man you want to be. Worrying about others in this context serves nothing- unless they are actively undermining whatever it is you're trying to do. Then you just hope they have enough people skills to hash it out like adults. Somewhat of a coin toss, really.
DeleteI suppose I'll begin my examining these pieces in reverse order. Ron Rosenbaum's critique, to me, reads more like a form of character assassination than anything else. It has a tone that dips into the rather cringe-worthy territory of borderline hysterics as it grossly inflates what I believe is a (perhaps purposeful) misinterpretation. Professor Fish's article can be broken down to a few key pieces. First, it makes me think the good professor might well possess some introverted tendencies. In particular, it seems to me that he doesn't want to deal overly much with other people when he goes to sit down for a coffee (and cheese danish). Reading between the lines a bit tells me he prefers to deal with a handful of familiar faces (a longstanding waitress or veteran cashier of many years) that recognize him and likely already know what his order is going to be and exactly how to prepare it. Familiar and personal, as opposed to the more impersonal modern incarnation we see these days. Second, I can actually agree with his statement regarding service, to some extent: "But none of us has chosen to take over the jobs of those we pay to serve us." The thing is, you aren't paying for a service anymore. These days you pay for a product instead- premium coffee and a name brand. Funny enough, if you pay attention you can see some parallels between Starbucks and websites/apps when it comes to how they market themselves. Shiny gimmicks, branding, huge selection (of about the same dozen or so ingredients in varying amounts and combinations). Terribly complex for what amounts to boiled bean water with (lots of) sugar and maybe some dairy. You don't need personal touch or the human element when you have the illusion of choice, after all.
ReplyDeleteI suppose I do understand professor Fish's aggravation from the perspective of an introvert. I feel similarly regarding people glued to their smartphones- and it's not like I even want to talk to anyone in the first place, ironically. But I still understand that using a dozen and one different apps to replace basic interpersonal skills is just plain silly. They don't even advance communication as much as one would think. The concept of sending information to someone else is far from new and I would argue that the digital age has actually lessened communication rather than further it. All these electronic devices strip away the actual interpersonal part of "interpersonal communication". Reducing thoughts, feelings, history, and philosophy to zeros-and-ones that you spew around the internet hasn't been taking society in a good direction. This is coming from a highly introverted former computer programmer that specialized in web applications development. I don't know what else to think, though, when I can watch a couple sit next to each other and not even look up from their phones to acknowledge each other for over ten minutes. Or when a girl is sitting there on her phone while her boyfriend is doing the same thing several feet away and they each haven't even realized the other is present in the same room yet. Really now, it's the sort of plain ridiculousness I would have expected to see in a comedy show or movie when I was growing up.